10 Ways Parents Can Prevent Cyberbullying

10 Ways Parents Can Prevent CyberbullyingThe team over at uKnow.com recently posted their list of “10 Ways Parents Can Prevent Cyberbullying“. I’d love to hear your feedback and if there are other tips that should be on the table… let’s hear them.

I’d also love to hear what kids have to say about this. What can parents do to help?

If you’re interested in other internet safety and parenting tips, check out these great materials that were jointly created by uKnow.com and the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children.

Bill in NY Would Make Cyberbullying Manslaughter

Anyone, regardless of age or gender, can be a victim of cyberbullying. And no one is immune from its harmful effects. Decreased school performance, depression and anxiety, and even suicide can be the tragic result of a tween or teen who is pushed over the line by bullying. A new bill in New York attempts to make cyberbullies more accountable for their actions, especially when they end tragically.

Under the bill proposed in New York, the definition of second degree manslaughter would be expanded to include “bullycide” – online bullying that prompts the victim to ultimately take his or her own life. The bill would also expancd third degree stalking to include cyberbullying, as well.

However, there might be some problems with implementing the new bill if it were to become law. Most suicides – including those that are precipitated by cyberbullying – are a combination of many factors. Punishing cyberbullies for the suicide does not take into account the other issues going on at school, at home, or in a child’s personal life that may have also prompted the suicide.

Problems – How much bullying is punishable? How can someone else be held accountable for a suicide?

Conclusion – Parents agree that cyberbullying is a problem but disagree about what to do about it – is it the parent’s responsibility? The child’s? The teacher’s/school’s? The legislator’s?

Regardless of where you come down on this, I think we can all agree that cyberbullying is a problem that needs all of our attention. What do you think of this proposed bill?

Cyberbullying, Sexting, and Fighting: What Is the School’s Responsibility?

Legislators often demand that schools take more responsibility for students who engage in cyberbullying, sexting, or posting fight videos on the Internet – even when it doesn’t happen in school or during school hours. One major question many parents are asking themselves is: can a school possibly police their students’ online lives? And even if they can, should they?

Actually, the U.S. Supreme Court has ruled that schools can discipline their students for activities that occur on their own time away from campus, as long as the activities are “disruptive” or “dangerous” to the school or student body. So if a student’s online conduct poses a threat to the school or other students (a subjective judgement), they can be punished.

What about the first question? Do schools even have the capability to monitor their student’s digital citizenship? Teachers and school administrators are often overworked and overburdened as it is, unable to find the time (or the money) to comb the Internet to keep tabs on their students. How is any single entity expected to keep an eye on something as vast as the Internet, in addition to its regular 9-to-5 job of educating our children?

Australian independent schools have recently made headlines by using an online intelligence company to help them monitor their students’ public posts on Facebook, admitting that they can’t keep up with it all on their own. Some view the activity as a waste of taxpayer money, while others are outraged at the perceived invasion of privacy.

Opinions on these questions range all across the board, but what is certain is that schools cannot replace responsible parenting. Digital citizenship classes, school cyberbullying policies, and sexting legislation will never have the same impact that a one-on-one parent-child conversation does. Schools should play a supporting role, not a leading one, in monitoring and combating dangerous online behavior. Besides, even if schools really could effectively do it, wouldn’t you really rather be a part of your teen’s digital world?

post originally appeared on uKnowKids

Entrepreneurs Take On Sexting and Child Safety Online

Parents’ concern for their children’s risky behavior with new technologies is an untapped market

Last year, Northern Virginia entrepreneur Steve Woda experienced an incident that seems all too common in the Internet Age: A young member of his extended family was contacted online by a suspicious adult. While the family member was not harmed, it forced Woda and his family to think about ways to prevent the new technologies their kids use—such as social networking and text messages—from opening doors to sexual predators. But he didn’t just think about what his own family could do. He and his brother Tim started a business to help parents monitor their children’s use of the Internet, text messages, and cellphones.

Woda’s KidSafe.me is one of several businesses that have recently joined the battle against “sexting”—a relatively new phenomenon involving teenagers sending and receiving sexually explicit messages and images via their cellphones. Television is helping stir the pot; a recent episode of the Tyra Banks Show featured stern adults reading the salacious details of teenage girls’ text messages to a shocked audience. On Good Morning America, Diane Sawyer declared that sexting has reached “epidemic proportions.”

That description might sound over the top, but there is at least some evidence that sexting has become widespread. According to a survey by the Associated Press and MTV released December 3, 30 percent of 14-to-24-year-olds have sent or received nude photos through cellphones or the Internet. Debbie Wasserman Schultz, a Democratic congresswoman from Florida, introduced an antisexting bill to the House in March that claimed, “One in 5 teenagers…used their cell phones to send explicit photos of themselves to a peer.”

The outrage over sexting has created controversy over whether the laws meant to protect minors have gone too far. The district attorney in Wyoming County, Pa., threatened to bring child pornography charges against three teenage girls who took seminude photos of themselves—but did not send the photos—on cellphones that were later confiscated. In March, the ACLU came to the defense of the three girls, suing the prosecutor for allegedly violating their right to freedom of expression. Earlier this year, Vermont legislators relaxed antisexting laws concerning minors after the state’s chief prosecutor argued that teenagers shouldn’t be pinned as sex offenders. “It’s become a bit of a panic,” says Woda. He’s not taking sides on exactly what the right legal response to the problem should be. “I don’t know if tightening the laws is the right thing. As a parent, you don’t want to rely on that.”

Woda thought parents, instead of depending on the law, would want tools to track what their kids are up to online. Closely related to the sexting scare have been news reports of teens committing suicide after “cyberbullies” revealed embarrassing details about them online. Woda had already worked in the world of online safety when he started buySAFE in 2000, a company that certifies online merchants and guarantees transactions so customers don’t have to fear fraud. Since June, Woda and a small team have been working on KidSafe, which he hopes to launch as both an online program and mobile application in early 2010. KidSafe, which is currently in beta testing, looks like the phone bill that parents wish they had. When the parent logs in to the program, KidSafe displays who texts or calls their child most often, mines publicly available information in order to identify those people, shows if the kid is texting or calling more frequently than the national average, and flags text messages that might contain suspicious words, like references to sex or drugs. A database of more than 10,000 instances of textspeak and emoticons identifies code words that might confound parents. The number eight, for example, is commonly used in text messages as a stand-in for oral sex, says Woda. He is also working to link the program to social networking sites so it can display similar data about how much time a child is spending on sites like Facebook and if he or is she is receiving suspicious messages there.

But KidSafe can access the sensitive information on a phone or social networking account only if the parent can access the phone and install the KidSafe application or provide the user name and password for a Facebook account. More mature teenagers with their own disposable income could easily evade the program. “The parent of the 15- or 16-year-old is not the perfect customer. It’s the parent of the child who is saying, ‘Can I get a phone?’” says Woda. The parent then could strike a deal with the child—he or she only gets the phone if it contains KidSafe.

Woda concedes that kids are often more tech-savvy than their parents, so no tool can provide perfect oversight. But parents’ concern over sexting, cyberbullying, and other online threats is driving businesses to improve protection. Several other start-ups are now competing to offer products to help parents keep tabs on their kids. SafetyWeb, in the process of being launched by Mike Clark, a former executive at Photobucket, is a website that will scour the Web to find any trouble a child or teenager may have gotten into online, such as friending a sex offender or cyberbullying classmates. SafetyWeb recently raised money from venture capital firm Battery Ventures. Woda says his team is trying to a develop a system for KidSafe that could similarly search for potential threats in publicly available information. Some companies claim to have those tools in place already. ReputationDefender is a Silicon Valley-based company started in 2006 whose services include finding and destroying “inaccurate, inappropriate, hurtful, and slanderous information” online. Its MyChild product claims to defend a child or teen’s online reputation for $14.95 a month.

The difficulty for these businesses is similar to the difficulties facing parents. It’s a challenge to keep up with kids who are finding new websites and developing new lingo all the time. “The way kids are communicating is changing faster than the market can adapt,” says Woda.

Reprint from U.S. News & World Report, by Matthew Bandyk

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Welcome

I’m a dad. I’m an entrepreneur. I’m an Internet & Child Safety Advocate.

Based upon a bad online shopping experience my brother Steve had on eBay, he founded an Internet trust and safety company called buySAFE in 2003. I joined the buySAFE team when the business launched and today I serve as the company’s Vice President of Business Development & Sales. My most important role however is as a dad to my three children.

As a father, nothing is more important to me than protecting my kids from harm, and teaching them to be smart and safe when a difficult situation arises. But when a child in our family was victimized by an Internet child predator, it was a wake up call. As parents we often don’t know enough about our kids’ “digital lives”. Predators can exploit this in the darkest possible ways. Like many of you, I’ve heard too many stories of the world’s most detestable people using technology to gain access to and to cause harm to children.

Today I work to educate parents on how they can keep their children safe in our digital world.  Communication and education are powerful weapons to fight the war being waged against our kids. All of us want our children to be empowered to make the right choices at the right times, to know how to get out of a
situation that feels uncomfortable and to come to us with their concerns. This is a cause I’m passionate about. I hope this blog will help you open up or expand the dialogue you’re having with the children in your life.

I also think parents need better, easy to use technology tools that can help us know what our kids are being exposed to, who they are communicating with and who is trying to communicate with them.  That is why my brother and I and a talented team of technologists and entrepreneurs are working to develop new and intelligent technology to help protect kids and empower parents.  I believe it’s the most important thing that I’ve ever done.  Children have the right to use and enjoy technology safely and parents have a right to peace of mind.  Please take a moment to see what we are working on: http://www.kidsafe.me

If this is important to you as well and you’d like to learn more about how to protect children in our digital world, please subscribe to my blog or follow me on Twitter.

Thank you.

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Inspired by his own child’s encounter with an online predator, Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – predators, sexting and cyberbullying.  Co-founder of KidSafe.me, developer of the world’s only Parental Intelligence System which helps parents keep their social and mobile kids safe, he raises awareness of these issues and shares his experience with parents through Internet & Mobile Safety Workshops hosted by schools, churches and other organizations.

Copyright © 2009 Tim Woda

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