Teens Posting Videos of Real Fights Online

This post originally appeared on www.kidsafe.me.

Now that most kids carry their video-enabled cell phones around everywhere with them, everybody is a cameraman. This can be a good thing – we’ve all heard stories about a thief who was caught because a bystander just happened to catch the robbery on his cell phone. But it can also be a source for trouble when fight videos start getting posted online.

Clips of two teens punching, kicking, and pulling each others’ hair are surprisingly easy to find online, most of them posted by other kids who stood by and recorded the fight on their cell phones.

Why do they post these videos? They may have a grudge against somebody in the fight. Or, more commonly, they just want to get their 15 minutes of fame for posting an exclusive video. Sad but true, kids feel important by association if they can show the world something interesting that they were privy to – even a fist fight.

Video sharing sites like YouTube usually have prohibitions against pornographic material or nudity, but not against videos featuring fights between tweens or teens. Even if the videos are ultimately taken down, they can still receive hundreds (or thousands) of views before being flagged.

Of course, teens fighting to solve a problem isn’t new. In my youth, one kid would tell another “I’ll see you in the parking lot after school,” word would spread, and by the end of the day a crowd of maybe ten kids would witness the fight (if both parties even showed up), and that would be it. But when the fight goes viral and people can watch and re-watch the video online, it becomes that much more humiliating for the loser and that much more empowering for the winner.

Talk to your kids about sensitivity. Don’t ever post a video that embarrasses someone. Fight videos just encourage more fights, so teach your child – and teach them early – not to post or watch this kind of material online.

Understanding YouTube

This post originally appeared on www.kidsafe.me.

YouTube provides a completely free platform for uploading, sharing, and viewing video content on any subject. You can laugh over a parody of Twilight, see your nephew take his first steps, learn how to seal the grout on your tile floor, or prove to your kids that an octopus can, in fact, fit through an opening the size of a quarter. Here’s what you need to know about using this powerful tool called YouTube.

Watching Videos on YouTube

Anyone can watch videos without registering with YouTube. You can search by content to find pretty much anything you want, and YouTube will suggest related content.

Turn on the “Safety Mode” at the bottom of the page, but don’t let it give you a false sense of security. It hides comments from view and (in theory) filters out “mature content.” But it will certainly not catch everything you find objectionable.

Posting Videos on YouTube

To upload a video to YouTube you must create a free account. Once registered, you can upload anything – literally – as long as it’s under 15 minutes. YouTube asks users to adhere to certain guidelines, but it doesn’t review videos unless they are flagged as inappropriate by another user.

Social Networking on YouTube

Though most of us think of YouTube as a video-sharing site, it is also as much of a social networking site as MySpace or Facebook. Logged-in users can leave comments on each others’ videos and profiles, make “friend” requests, and form video groups with other users. The same cautions that apply to a chat room apply to YouTube.

YouTube Safety Tips

  • Flag inappropriate content if/when you see it
  • Default for all uploaded videos is “public;” label personal videos as “private” to be viewed by invitation only
  • Users can opt to “hide objectionable words” or disable comments on their videos altogether, as well as block abusive users
  • Take steps to hide your age and other information in your profile (this is not automatic)
  • Be careful what you post: even if you delete a video from YouTube, illegally-made copies will remain

by Jenny Evans

Intro to Webkinz

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Surely you’ve seen those cuddly little stuffed animals called Webkinz. Maybe your child just received their very first Webkinz as a gift, or announced that he wants to collect them like so-and-so at school, or is already playing Webkinz but you aren’t sure that it’s totally safe. Here’s a fast Webkinz tutorial for parents.

What is Webkinz?

Webkinz is part online gaming site, part social network for kids ages 6 to 13. (Though usually, the fuzzy pets and cute graphics appeal more to girls and younger boys.)

Each Webkinz pet, which retails for about $10.99, comes with an online code that allows your child to “adopt” the pet online and take care of it in the virtual Webkinz world for one year. In order to continue past the one-year mark, you’ll need to buy a new Webkinz.

WebKinz as Online Gaming

With their virtual adoption papers in hand, kids play online games (divided into age-appropriate categories) and answer trivia questions to earn KinzCash.

Kids use their virtual earnings to customize their pet’s house, buy it toys, play with it, feed it, or dress it up. They monitor how happy, healthy, and hungry the pets are (but fortunately, even the most neglected Webkinz cannot die.)

WebKinz as Social Networking

Players can also invite friends to play with the KinzChat cell phone, or meet up in special chatrooms called “clubhouses.” There are two kinds of clubhouses:

KinzChat – kids can only speak by selecting pre-written phrases from a menu
KinzChat Plus – free typing is allowed but numbers, cuss words, and certain phrases like “boy friend” are blocked

Whether your child is old enough to participate in Webkinz is up to you. But if your child does start playing, keep tabs on how they’re using the site for social networking and establish some firm ground rules for the who, what, where, when, and why of chatting.

by Jenny Evans

“Don’t Talk to Strangers” Isn’t Such Old-Fashioned Advice After All

In March, Ashleigh Hall’s name was splashed across newspapers everywhere after her body was found in a ditch. The 17-year-old had done something that a worrisome number of teens do: made a new friend on Facebook and gone to meet him.

A 2006 survey commissioned by Cox Communications with the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children reported that:

  • 71% of teens reported receiving messages online from someone they don’t know
  • 45% have been asked for personal information by someone they don’t know
  • 30% have considered meeting someone that they’ve only talked to online
  • 14% have actually met a person face-to-face that they’ve only talked to on the Internet (the figure for teens ages 16 and 17 jumps to 22%)

In Ashleigh’s case, her new friend was a predator who had lied about his identity, posing as a 17-year-old boy. Many were quick to point fingers at Facebook: can’t they do more to prevent people from lying about who they are online?

Check out www.kidsafe.me/blog for the rest of this article and practical tips for helping you educate, engage and protect your children.

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Copyright © 2009 Tim Woda

Xbox 101: What Every Parent Needs to Know

Xbox.  Xbox 360.  Xbox LIVE.  What’s the difference between these systems and what do we need to know as parents.  Let’s start with the basics.

When I was a kid “social gaming” meant sitting around with your friends on beanbag chairs, waiting for your turn at Pac-Man with the one joy stick we had.  The definition of “social gaming” for our children’s generation is very different.

Today, our children can pick up their controller and play a game of Halo with someone 1,000 miles away by connecting online.  They can check to see if their friends are “online” and join them in “multi-player mode”, all while sitting on beanbag chairs in different houses.  The world of gaming is changing rapidly and as parents we need to change the image we have of how kids play video games.

Microsoft’s Xbox is just one example of “social gaming”.    These systems allow the user to connect online through your homes internet connection to download new games, chat or play with others users, download and watch movies, or even share photos.

So what is the difference between Xbox’s systems?

Xbox – Developed by Microsoft and released in 2001.  Xbox is the original gaming system’s name.  It allows up to 4 player controllers.  In 2002, Microsoft announced the Xbox LIVE which would allow players to connect to others online.

Xbox 360 – This is the second gaming console released by Microsoft in 2005.  It is the “successor” of the Xbox.

Xbox LIVE – Microsoft’s Xbox LIVE is basically the online service for Xbox or Xbox 360.  Xbox Live is a paid subscription to Microsoft’s online gaming and content distribution service.  It allows the player to play against others online, chat with friends from school or people they meet on Xbox LIVE, download and trade photos and even download new games, movies and television shows.  When a player registers for LIVE, they create what is called their GAMERTAG, which is a “nickname” that will be displayed on Xbox LIVE so other players can see what games you play, how well you play them.  It is like a screen name.

If you are thinking about connecting your child’s Xbox to the Internet or already have a child connected, remember, as soon as your child is connected, the gaming console becomes a social networking tool.  In fact, Xbox Live recently gave users the ability to interact directly with Facebook and Twitter.  If you have parental control software on your family computers, that will not limit access to these sites if accessed through Xbox LIVE.

Without the internet connection, the Xbox and Xbox 360 are just like the games we grew up with – only with much better games (sorry Pac-Man).  You can only play with the people physically located in the same room.

Understanding the Risks

Online gaming is fun, exciting and today it is a part of childhood.  Inherently there is nothing wrong with it.  But just like any other place our children connect to the Internet, there is only one-degree of separation between our children and those intent on doing our children harm.  Parents need to understand the risks.

In Portsmouth, Virginia a 24 year old man was arrested and charged with a felony after asking for nude photos of a 13 year old via the Xbox LIVE.  In Saratoga Springs, New York a 20 year old man was arrested after finding the address of a 15 year old girl and sending her packages and flowers and sending thousands of text messages through her cell phone.  The parents of the girl refused all of the packages and changed the cell phone number, but the predator did not stop there.  He drove to her home and after finding the new cell phone number, sent text messages threatening to “rape” her and her little sister.  Cyberbullying is rampant!

Last night I had the opportunity to spend three hours in the FBI’s Washington field office with their Child Exploitation Task Force.  One of my key take-aways the meeting was that in their opinion, parents are simply not aware of the risks their children are exposed to online.  For one reason or another, few parents think bad things are going to happen to their child.  They think their child is too smart, too careful, too responsible, etc.  Predators are experts at finding our children.  They always go where the children are.  They are experts at approaching them and “grooming” them.  And it happens to smart, careful, responsible kids everyday.  In fact, while at the FBI office, a special agent demonstrated this live for the meeting attendees.  He created a brand new online profile, pretending to be a 13 year old and went online into a chat room.  Within 60 seconds, his fake profile was being chatted up by several adults and within 10 minutes, one of the random strangers – who identified himself as a 40 year old man – had sent the child a nude photo and was speaking in a sexual manner to the “child”.

This is a Parenting Challenge, not an Xbox Challenge

It is important to understand that this is not an Xbox challenge.  This is a parenting challenge that applies to all internet-accessible devices.  The world is now wired but our kids are still kids, no matter how smart or trustworthy they are.  It is important that we educate and engage our children on an ongoing basis about how to stay safe online.   A few of very simple rules:

  1. STOP- When online strangers try engage your child, they need to STOP, meaning they should not respond.
  2. BLOCK – They should BLOCK the  stranger so that they can not continue to communicate with them
  3. TELL – Our kids need to know to TELL a trusted adult, hopefully their parent.

And of course we need to make sure our children know that they should never meet someone in real life that they met online – ever.  You might consider reviewing an Internet & Mobile Safety Pledge with your kids.

It is also critical that you have a way to supervise your children’s usage of Xbox LIVE on an ongoing basis.  Using Xbox LIVE’s parental controls complimented by a KidSafe Basic subscription should provide you with the peace of mind you need to allow your children to safely enjoy Xbox LIVE’s amazing technology while playing with family and approved friends.

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Copyright © 2009 Tim Woda
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