Apple Bans Sexy Apps. But Is It Enough?

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Last month Apple finally made the move to ban sexy applications from the company’s popular App Store. Female customers and parents can claim a big victory here because it was their loud and justifiable chorus of complaints that led to the change.

Apple made parental controls available last summer after parents complained of their absence on early versions of the iTouch and iPhone. But many felt that the large quantities of sexually suggestive apps for sale in the App Store was a problem as well. The recently banned applications included women in suggestive adult poses and/or barely dressed women. An estimated 5% of the 140,000 applications in the App Store were affected by the new decency standards. Noteworthy exemptions from the new policy are Playboy and Sports Illustrated’s Swim Suit application.

Limitations You Needs To Know

I applaud Apple’s move to make their App Store more family friendly and the introduction of parental controls last year. But it is important to understand the parental control limitations. Unless you block access to the Safari Internet browser on the device, kids can still access pornography on the iTouch and iPhone. Even if you set all of the parental control filters in the “Allowed Content” section to the most restrictive level, a simple Safari web search on the device for “iTouch porn” or “iPhone porn” will lead directly to tons of porn websites. I’m not sure what the “Allowed Content” section is filtering, but it isn’t porn.

If you are considering an iPhone or iTouch for your child, be sure to test drive the device for yourself before handing it over to your child. Check out this How-to-guide for setting up iTouch and iPhone parental control if you need assistance.

I want to know what you think. Is Apple’s doing enough on this issue or should they give parents more options to monitor or restrict how their children are using the iTouch and iPhone?

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Copyright © 2009 Tim Woda

Parenting Digital Kids is About to Get Easier

Digital Natives and Digital Immigrants

Today’s children represent the first generation to grow up entirely in a digital world. They have spent their entire lives using computers, video games, webcams, digital music players, mobile phones, instant messaging services and everything else the digital world has to offer.

Our kids are all “native speakers” of a digital language.  They are Digital Natives.

So what does that make this generation of parents?  Those of us who were not born into a digital world are, and always will be, Digital Immigrants. As immigrants, we are now in the process of learning a new language.  This makes parenting today more challenging than ever before.  After all, how often does the immigrant have the responsibility to teach the native how to stay safe and responsible in the native’s own land?

One thing that never changes is that kids are just as naive and reckless about risks as they have always been and they need parents to provide guidance and oversight.  Did you know:

  • More than 70% of teens talk to strangers online
  • More than 60% of teens have been asked to meet face-to-face by a stranger they met online
  • 1 in 7 kids are sexually solicited online every year
  • 1 in 3 kids are bullied online or with a mobile phone
  • 20% of teens admit to electronically sharing a nude photo of themselves with a friend or stranger
  • 40% of teens say they have had an uncomfortable situation online but never told an adult
  • And almost 50% of teens say their parents would not approve if their parents knew what they were really doing online and with their mobile phone.

Today’s parent is facing a unique set of parenting challenges.  A complete lack of transparency into what is going on in the Digital Natives’ land makes it near impossible to set and manage limits, instill self-discipline and personal responsibility and to help our children maintain balance.  That’s why I’m so excited about what we are doing at KidSafe.

KidSafe Makes Parenting A Little Easier

KidSafe is like a translator of the Digital Natives’ language, a GPS unit of their land and the phone bill that parents wish they had.  Like the technology that our kids are using to gain instant access to everything, KidSafe provides real-time visibility into your kid’s digital world.  Our goal has been to develop a simple to use technology that makes parenting in a digital world easier for a change.  We want and need your feedback however. Please visit www.kidsafe.me and request an invitation to participate in our private beta.

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Copyright © 2009 Tim Woda

What Type of Mobile Phone Does Your Child Use?

KidSafe nearing launch

As you many have seen in this U.S. News & World Report article, KidSafe is quickly approaching launch.  We’re tremendously excited!

We want to know which mobile telephone platform your kids are using today and would appreciate it if you will share this poll with your family, friends and social networking followers.  And if you are interested in being a beta tester for KidSafe, please tell us.  Thanks!

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Entrepreneurs Take On Sexting and Child Safety Online

Parents’ concern for their children’s risky behavior with new technologies is an untapped market

Last year, Northern Virginia entrepreneur Steve Woda experienced an incident that seems all too common in the Internet Age: A young member of his extended family was contacted online by a suspicious adult. While the family member was not harmed, it forced Woda and his family to think about ways to prevent the new technologies their kids use—such as social networking and text messages—from opening doors to sexual predators. But he didn’t just think about what his own family could do. He and his brother Tim started a business to help parents monitor their children’s use of the Internet, text messages, and cellphones.

Woda’s KidSafe.me is one of several businesses that have recently joined the battle against “sexting”—a relatively new phenomenon involving teenagers sending and receiving sexually explicit messages and images via their cellphones. Television is helping stir the pot; a recent episode of the Tyra Banks Show featured stern adults reading the salacious details of teenage girls’ text messages to a shocked audience. On Good Morning America, Diane Sawyer declared that sexting has reached “epidemic proportions.”

That description might sound over the top, but there is at least some evidence that sexting has become widespread. According to a survey by the Associated Press and MTV released December 3, 30 percent of 14-to-24-year-olds have sent or received nude photos through cellphones or the Internet. Debbie Wasserman Schultz, a Democratic congresswoman from Florida, introduced an antisexting bill to the House in March that claimed, “One in 5 teenagers…used their cell phones to send explicit photos of themselves to a peer.”

The outrage over sexting has created controversy over whether the laws meant to protect minors have gone too far. The district attorney in Wyoming County, Pa., threatened to bring child pornography charges against three teenage girls who took seminude photos of themselves—but did not send the photos—on cellphones that were later confiscated. In March, the ACLU came to the defense of the three girls, suing the prosecutor for allegedly violating their right to freedom of expression. Earlier this year, Vermont legislators relaxed antisexting laws concerning minors after the state’s chief prosecutor argued that teenagers shouldn’t be pinned as sex offenders. “It’s become a bit of a panic,” says Woda. He’s not taking sides on exactly what the right legal response to the problem should be. “I don’t know if tightening the laws is the right thing. As a parent, you don’t want to rely on that.”

Woda thought parents, instead of depending on the law, would want tools to track what their kids are up to online. Closely related to the sexting scare have been news reports of teens committing suicide after “cyberbullies” revealed embarrassing details about them online. Woda had already worked in the world of online safety when he started buySAFE in 2000, a company that certifies online merchants and guarantees transactions so customers don’t have to fear fraud. Since June, Woda and a small team have been working on KidSafe, which he hopes to launch as both an online program and mobile application in early 2010. KidSafe, which is currently in beta testing, looks like the phone bill that parents wish they had. When the parent logs in to the program, KidSafe displays who texts or calls their child most often, mines publicly available information in order to identify those people, shows if the kid is texting or calling more frequently than the national average, and flags text messages that might contain suspicious words, like references to sex or drugs. A database of more than 10,000 instances of textspeak and emoticons identifies code words that might confound parents. The number eight, for example, is commonly used in text messages as a stand-in for oral sex, says Woda. He is also working to link the program to social networking sites so it can display similar data about how much time a child is spending on sites like Facebook and if he or is she is receiving suspicious messages there.

But KidSafe can access the sensitive information on a phone or social networking account only if the parent can access the phone and install the KidSafe application or provide the user name and password for a Facebook account. More mature teenagers with their own disposable income could easily evade the program. “The parent of the 15- or 16-year-old is not the perfect customer. It’s the parent of the child who is saying, ‘Can I get a phone?’” says Woda. The parent then could strike a deal with the child—he or she only gets the phone if it contains KidSafe.

Woda concedes that kids are often more tech-savvy than their parents, so no tool can provide perfect oversight. But parents’ concern over sexting, cyberbullying, and other online threats is driving businesses to improve protection. Several other start-ups are now competing to offer products to help parents keep tabs on their kids. SafetyWeb, in the process of being launched by Mike Clark, a former executive at Photobucket, is a website that will scour the Web to find any trouble a child or teenager may have gotten into online, such as friending a sex offender or cyberbullying classmates. SafetyWeb recently raised money from venture capital firm Battery Ventures. Woda says his team is trying to a develop a system for KidSafe that could similarly search for potential threats in publicly available information. Some companies claim to have those tools in place already. ReputationDefender is a Silicon Valley-based company started in 2006 whose services include finding and destroying “inaccurate, inappropriate, hurtful, and slanderous information” online. Its MyChild product claims to defend a child or teen’s online reputation for $14.95 a month.

The difficulty for these businesses is similar to the difficulties facing parents. It’s a challenge to keep up with kids who are finding new websites and developing new lingo all the time. “The way kids are communicating is changing faster than the market can adapt,” says Woda.

Reprint from U.S. News & World Report, by Matthew Bandyk

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Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – cyberbullying, sexting and predators. He co-founded KidSafe, is the author of Keeping Kids Safe: A Guide for Parents of Social and Mobile Children and is a frequent public speaker on the topic.

Facebook reaches 65 million mobile users

Facebook milestone - 65 million mobile users

Facebook milestone - 65 million mobile users

Assuming you haven’t been living on a deserted island, you already know that Facebook is the most popular social networking website on the planet.  In fact, it gets more popular every day.  But the way you use Facebook is not the way your teen uses Facebook.   For this generation, Facebook has replaced face to face communication, talking on the telephone and even e-mail.

According to a June 2009 Neilsen report, “How Teens Use Media”, almost 50% of teens have a Facebook account and by comparison to adults, they are described as “prolific” users.  But alas, technology moves as quickly as our children.

Facebook has announced that they’ve hit a new milestone – 65 million people now access Facebook via their mobile phone.  Just eight months ago that number stood at “only” 20 million people.  Facebook’s web site m.facebook.com works on any mobile browser and x.facebook.com is designed specifically for touch screen phones.  Since 37% of teens have access to the web via their mobile phone, your “prolific” user may actually be using Facebook more than you think.

Social Networking Safety Tips for Mobile Kids:

  1. Talk to your teen about how they use social networking sites. Having an open dialogue creates a more comfortable environment to talk about this part of your child’s life.  If you’re not comfortable, your child won’t be comfortable talking to you about this aspect of their life.
  2. Place limits on when and where your child can use their mobile phone. When we were children, we all used the telephone wired to the wall in the kitchen… and we survived.  In fact, this probably kept a few of us from getting ourselves into an awful lot of trouble when we were younger.  Kids should be expected to use their mobile phone in public areas of the house – just like their Internet connected computers .
  3. Clearly communicate your expectations.
  • Create an appropriate username
  • Set the privacy settings for the account so that only approved “Friends” can access their profile
  • Do not accept “Friend” requests from strangers
  • Do not post personal info online such as their real name, their age, address, school name or phone number
  • Do not post, send or forward explicit pictures of themselves or others
  • Do not talk about drugs, sex or other inappropriate topics for children (yes, teens are still children)
  • Treat others online the way they would like to be treated offline – the Golden Rule
  • Tell a parent if something happens that makes them uncomfortable
  • Following these common sense tips will help teach your child that using social networking sites like Facebook comes with some responsibilities.  Francis Duncan recently post “Social Networking Survey Results” on Safety Clicks.  Francis shares some staggering information about what teens say they’re doing on social networking sites like Facebook.  I strongly recommend that you check it out.  You won’t believe some of the things kids are doing on these sites.

    For more information on protecting your child online and on their mobile phone and to learn about exciting new parenting tools to be released in the coming months, visit www.kidsafe.me – smart tools to keep our kids safe.
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    Inspired by his own child’s encounter with an online predator, Tim Woda is a passionate advocate for protecting children from today’s scariest digital dangers – predators, sexting and cyberbullying.  Co-founder of KidSafe.me, developer of the world’s only Parental Intelligence System which helps parents keep their social and mobile kids safe, he raises awareness of these issues and shares his experience with parents through Internet & Mobile Safety Workshops hosted by schools, churches and other organizations.

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